Question: Sir, I have observed that if one is not enjoying the path of one’s journey then how much glorious the result or the end of the journey may seem, one still feels unaccomplished. How to know what is good for me, rather than chasing different goals and then getting disappointed?
Speaker: ‘If the journey is not in joy, what is the point in chasing the destination?’ Is it so?
Let’s invert it:
Any journey that makes you heavy and tensed cannot be good for you. Check the goal.
A good goal is one that gives you a journey in joy.
Question: How to find that path which gives a journey in joy?
Sir, I have a very good example of my question. Many of my friends want to join defence services. For them to be a defence officer means to earn a good salary and to have reputation. Many of them would refuse to join if they come to know how much hardship is involved in the training. So, for them the goal is very good but they don’t like the path, that is the training, of becoming a defence officer.
Goals are glorious. But it is very difficult to know ‘the glorious path’ to the goal. And that makes all the difference.
What is the goal for a terrorist? – Kill.
What is the goal for a Hindu? – Temple.
What is the goal for a Muslim? – Mosque.
What is the goal for a fly? – Dirt and rubbish.
What is the goal for a hormone-driven body? – Physical pleasure
What is the goal for a greedy mind? – Money
What is the goal for a bored mind? – Adventure
What is the goal for a dependent mind? – Social acceptance
What is the goal for an insecure mind? – A feeling of security
What is the goal that the mind chases? – That goal which it has been taught to chase.
1. Are you sure that goals are glorious?
2. Are you sure that goals do not arise from conditioning?
Any and all goals, are they not for the same reasons?
jiska jo goal hota hai use to theek aur jayaz lagta hai
(the one who has a goal finds it right and justified)
Question: Sir, I have observed one more thing. I asked you one question, you answered me with another question. Does this mean that the answer is within me?
Speaker: Yes, very well observed!
All answers will arise from within you. All you need is a gentle and clear guidance. The role of the teacher is to help awaken intelligence.
Question: So, I got to answer the question myself?
Speaker: No. No answer can come from the same ‘I’ that asked the question. So, it may just be the arrogance of ego that ‘I can answer it for myself’.
Ask: what is this ‘I’ that will answer? Is it not the same conditioned mind? Then how can it give me any free and real answers?
-Based on my interactions on various e-forums.
Dated : 4th December,’12