There is always the threat of our self-image being lost destroy and distorted.
“If others are telling you that you are a leader then who is leading whom? Are you a leader or they are leading you into believing that you are a leader?”
The others are always dominating the mind. Ask yourself that all you know about yourself how much is first hand? Of all the identities you carry how many intrinsic all yours and how many have been supplied by external situations, society, powers.
The more you are living with a borrowed self-concept with a borrowed self-image the more you will be afraid of the world. It’s a slavery.
The more you start looking at yourself with your own eyes, the less dependent you are on anybody else. The less dependent you are on anybody else, the less is the fear of losing your self-image.
You want to get rid of fear then reduce your dependency on others. Say, I have intelligence. I have my eyes. Let me use that to directly look at things.
What most of you call as your own, has not really been your own.