You are a man of mind. You are a man of reactions. You are a man of patterns. Who wants to talk to such a man?
An ordinary man in the name of learning from failures, Just tries to react differently. The second time a similar situation arises. And this he labels as learning from failure.
Zen is your essential core that reacts not, that it’s his own master. Has it’s own way of living.
Two or three years are needed so that all the pre-existing answers get clear. Not that the new answer is needed but the old answer need to go.
Read the complete article: Acharya Prashant on Zen: Have you any God?