• “Expectation — the disease of relationships”


  • “Free from lovers, you become free to love”

  • “Need cannot be the basis of any relationship, including a leader-follower relationship. Any relationship cannot be based on need, because when you need something from somebody then you will not let that person free.The basis of relationship has to be once own fullness. “I am so complete in myself that I am not begging something from you, I have come here to give. This is what love is. Two people who are perfectly alright in there aloneness, when they get together. That is a healthy and beautiful relationship. They do not need each other, yet they are with each other.“We do not need each other, yet we are with each other, in our freedom”. That is a healthy relationship.”


  • “The more clearly you state to me that such and such people are inhibiting your freedom, hampering your growth, stealing your joy, the more obliged you become to answer the question then, “Why are you with them”?I will tell you, why are you with them.Because you are so corrupted that you want all the benefits that come from their company and parallelly you also want to insult and humiliate them. You take all that can be taken from them and then you sing to the world that they are exploiting you. Who is exploiting whom?”
  • “If time can change it, it is not the Truth. Is there anything in my life, relationships, beliefs, that does not come and go with time?”


  • “You are your relationships.”


  • “A relationship born out of loneliness will cause suffering to you and the other.”


  • “Different minds can connect to each other only via their common Center. For a loving relation with others, first connect to your own Center.”


  • “Man is the only creature in existence whose defining characteristic is his deep fear. Fear in his relationships, his goals, fear in his laughter, his love, his living, his progress, fear in his entire being.”


  • “Our relationships- a tale of spiritual bankruptcy.”


  • “Without an essential spiritual dimension to the relationship, an element of fear, suspicion and exploitation will always be there in it.”


  • “Find an absence of love, understanding and peace in your relationships? Its only because your relationships are devoid of a spiritual base.”


  • “Awareness is a part of life, meditation is a part of routine, love is a part of relationships. Sure, just as waking up is a part of the dream.”


  • “Leela and Maya: Maya is when one acts in the mistaken belief that the expression is the Essence. Leela happens when one knows essence as essence and expression as expression. When the world takes control of me, it is maya. When I am not ruled by world while still participating in it, it is Leela, and that is the only healthy relationship with world.”


  • “Is it not there? Or, is it not there for you? How you look- in the form of things, personalities of people, names of relations! Not there,really?”


  • “Rapes don’t just happen. They come out of the way we live daily. The company we keep, the jobs we do, our entertainment, our relationships.”


  • “Relationship of ignorance is not love.”


  • “My relationship with the world is my relationship with myself. Outer conflict is inner. One who fights his mind quarrels with the world.”


  • “Relationships are not ‘give and take’.”


  • “What do we try to save? Stuff of mind like respectability, relations, future. For the imaginary stuff, we lose the real.”


  • “If time can change it, it is not the Truth. Is there anything in my life, relationships, beliefs, that does not come and go with time?”


  • “When you have no real relationship with your work, which is you, and hence you do not have any relationship with yourself then all your life you are just seeking holidays.”


  • “A relationship based on emotions is a relationship based on ego.”


  • “Emotional relationship will prevent you from changing; an emotional relationship can never be the agent of change.”


  • “When the person changes, his relationships too must change.”


  • “The only relationship that one can hence truthfully have is the direct relationship with God.

    Any other relationship would be tangential, wavered.”


  • “Two persons can be unified with each other only if they are first unified with God.

    And hence, every real relationship is a triangle – Center and these two.”


  • “Marry God – that is the only right relationship.Be wedded to God.Be fully committed to the Truth.”


  • “When somebody who is attached to you via the body, sees, that the command of the body is no more being followed by you and by the other person, then all of a sudden he realizes the tremendous power of Truth. He sees — that there might be an entire past of many decades connecting me to this person yet when the Truth shines then past has no meaning.

    Your relationship might be of sixty years, but one moment of Truth, one glimpse of Truth obliterates all those sixty years. In the language of morality, this sounds like being disloyal, does it not?  “That one moment of some god-damn realization and you forgot our age-old real relationship! Is this your fidelity? Is this what our relationship means to you? So cheap!” Tell them — “yes”. One moment of Truth is bigger than sixty-years of any relationship or sixty-thousand years.”


  • “The one who is devoted to the Real Father is likely to have a loving relationship with the physical father also. But if you ignore the Real Father then the father on earth is of no use, no value.

    Be devoted to the Real one, the rest will follow. All your other relationships will then be Real and loving.

    The first has to come first. It cannot be supplanted.”


  • “Those who are free of the world, are free to relate with the world in a healthy way.
    And those who are dominated by the world, have no real relationship with the world.”


  • “Only the man free of others can have loving relationship with the others.”


  • “You rest within yourself, and the rest will be taken care of.
    That is the secret of Joyful relationships.
    Forget everything about relationships, and your relationships will really blossom.”


  • “The relationship is not so much about the other person – the object out there.
    The relationship is about who you are within.
    Change the within, the relationship will change.
    But remaining the same within if you change the other, the relationship would still be rotten.”


  • “The fact will reveal the Truth.
    There is no other way, as a human being, to move into the Truth except through the fact.
    Know the fact and you’ll enter the Truth.
    Know the fact of your daily living, know the fact of your relationships, know the fact of your mental states, and you will enter the Truth.”


  • “A relationship based on emotions is a relationship based on ego.”


  • “Love is not a relationship with the other. Love is not a behaviour displayed to others.
    Love is your internal fullness. Love is the submergence of the ego in its source.

    That closeness is called Love.

    And when that is misplaced, when that is there, then everything is alright. In Love, you may even kill. Love is sheer wisdom. And Love demands that one does kill some time. Love is not about giving each other gifts.

    “You are my darling” — that is not Love.

    And let those special days come, anniversaries and the birthdays and the valentine days and all the kuchikoo that is not Love.”


  • “Be cured within, then all your relationships will fall into place. Do not think that it’s about one particular person, that my relation with one man is unloving. It’s not about your relationship with one particular person, it’s about your relationship with yourself. It’s about who you are.
    If you have relationship problems, turn within, look at yourself. Do not look at that man or that relationship.

    Turn within.
    The solution lies there.”


  • “When so much of advice is available on how to get peace, how will one ever get peace? When so many people are intent upon telling you what to do with your life, how will you ever know what to do this moment? When you are repeatedly being told, and told, and told, about what Love means, what money means, what work is, what relationships are, what society is, what God is, how will you ever know any of these?”


  • “If the action is happening out of a direct relationship with the Absolute, every action is justified.”


  • “If your relationship is really solid, you won’t need to expect.
    You will get more than you can ever expect.”


  • “Healthy relationship is possible only to a healthy mind.”


  • “If you approach someone to heal yourself when you’re in a bad mood, then remember that it’s not that you’ll be healed, rather your relationship would be spoiled.”


  • “Are you afraid that turning spiritual will ruin your relationship?Then was there a relationship ever?”


  • “Leela is to remember whom you are wedded to.
    Leela is to not to turn an infidel.
    Leela is to not to cheat in the only Real relationship that you have.

    The only adultery is to cheat on God, because that is your only Real relationship. All other relationships can be compromised. But you are disloyal and dishonest, only if you compromise on the Truth.

    That is the only infidelity.”


  • “Don’t you see that life is one? Don’t you see that fundamentally your behavior and your relationship towards and with your husband and wife, is just the same, fundamentally the same, as your relationship with anything or anybody else.”


  • “The quarrel is always between husband and wife, never between individuals. The quarrel is always between the images. It’s the images that fight. The fact of the individual never is in quarrel or strife or contradiction.



  • “Real challenge is neither the husband, nor the wife. Real challenge is one’s pettiness, one’s ego.”


  • “Be married to God and then let God save your marriage. Accept God as your spouse and then God will take care of your earthly, carnal spouse as well. Remember your first husband, remember your only father, and then all will be taken care of.”


  • “We always exist in relation to something or somebody. So, if you want to know yourself, you just see, what is the effect that the other has had upon you and we then, are a sum total of all those effects.”


  • “If you are not committed to the truth then thought is a perpetual wanderer. A wanderer without center. It will go to all the doors possible and keep knocking there. It will conceive all the possibilities that it has been trained to conceive, and keep considering them. You will find no stability there, you will find no rest there. There is no certainty in thought, how can you have stable relationships there?”


  • “When you will change, then the very basis of relationships will change.”


  • “The deeper is your belief in your separation, your boundaries, the more violent will be your relationship with others.”


  • “What is our consciousness? Consciousness is the content of mind. Consciousness is our thoughts, ideals, emotions, feelings, relationships. What is our consciousness? Our consciousness is doubt, fear, convictions, beliefs, attachments, imaginations, effort, attainment, beginning, end. That is what we call as consciousness.”


  • “The relationship of a healthy mind are called loving relationships.”


  • “Relationships, must not happen in spite of what you are. Relationships must happen, given what you are. Want an improved relationship? Be more of yourself. “


  • “Truth is so immediate that it does not go away even for a split second. Truth is closer to you, than anything or anybody else. That is why a man, who is not spiritual, cannot have any real relationship.”


  • “Keep your primary relationship strong and all other relationships will be alright. Your primary relationship is with Truth.”


  • “The best relationships are not born out of loneliness. A healthy relationship is born out of a sense of completion. It is not a parasitic relationship.”


  • “The closer somebody is to me, the more dependent I’m on that person and hence, closeness is directly proportional to the violence in relationship.”


These quotes have come from talks and writings of Acharya Prashant


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