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Answer to “Acharya Ji, I am afraid of you and don’t trust you.” || Acharya Prashant (2018)

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Question: Acharya Ji, I am afraid of you. The reasons are:

First reason is that of authority.  

And second reason is I want something from you and there is no total trust in you.

And I am afraid of that being found out.

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What I say to you depends upon who you are || Acharya Prashant (2015)

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Questioner: Sir, sometimes you say that we are completely conditioned and sometimes you say that I am much more than my conditioning. Why do you say both of these?

Acharya Prashant: I do not say both of these.

To you, I say only one statement. Which one, depends on who you are.

To Joe, I gave what must be given to Joe. To Jim, I gave what must be given to Jim.

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The speck of dust and the sky, you are both || Acharya Prashant on Rumi (2018)

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Questioner: Pranaam, Acharya Ji.

Rumi says ‘Wisdom tells us, we are not worthy, love tells us, and we are. My life flows between the two’.

Taruna asks, Acharya Ji could you please elaborate on the above. I feel that my life is a little short of love and self-acceptance. Am I just over-judging myself or is there any way, I can actually enhance self-love?

Thank You.

Acharya Prashant: That’s Rumi’s way of bringing out the difference and the oneness between the seeker and the sought, between the lover and the beloved, between the bhakt and bhagwan. Kindly, do not read his words to mean that love and wisdom are exclusive of each other.

I repeat, what he has said, ‘Wisdom tells us, we are not worthy, love tells us, and we are. My life flows between the two’. Kindly do not take these words to mean that wisdom and love are mutually exclusive. They are not. What is he saying here, he is talking of the last dichotomy, and we live in. And that dichotomy is the difference, separation between our fact and our destiny, our life and our destiny, our periphery and our center, our performance and our potential.

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The body must live only to express the heart || Acharya Prashant (2018)

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Question: Pranaam, Acharya Ji.

A few days ago, during my usual morning work commute, I was watching your video on mansahar  – flesh consumption, you called that the biggest sin and although I am a vegetarian, my heart cried. My eyes got filled with tears in the middle of the World Trade Center.

My question is how heart can be the pradhan, the prime one always?

Because tears definitely bring peace or sukh. There is no difference between heart and peace. And tears are just one kind of expression of heart.

Acharya Prashant: When one discovers the joy of living by the heart, then the heartfulness reveals itself, expresses itself, in tears as well as laughter. Tears are beautiful, tears are important. Laughter too is not bad. If you can laugh, especially upon yourself, then witnessing has taken over. And if your mind can cry without reason, and inexpressible melancholy can posses you, even in the middle of all your possessions, achievements.

If in the moment of your worldly glory, you can still sense that something extremely important is amiss and your eyes well up in tears, then tears too our beautiful.

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Keep moving, even if it is dark || Acharya Prashant on Saint Kabir (2018)

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Questioner:

Pranaam Acharya Ji,

I have lived life in images. In past I have kept myself away from experiences with the excuse of not being sufficiently prepared. I realize now that all this is a myth. How can I be prepared without practice?

But I’m still afraid, afraid of losing, afraid of not having the proper logic to debate my opponents. My competitor is winning with walkovers, I’m losing respect, people, chances of a good life. I have the opportunity to save myself but instead I’m asking you what to do. Seems, I want to surrender and live like a slave. Why am I letting somebody steal an edge over me?

Is my self image so low that I’m not standing up for myself?

Thank you.

Acharya Prashant:  Abhay, this is a classical case of, ‘duvidha mein dono gaye, maya mili na Ram’ (In doubt, both are lost: the material and the Truth).

It’s a phase of transition, it’s an intermediate stage, and right now you belong neither here nor there. When somebody is in this kind of situation, I advise him to keep moving forward with greater speed, and greater determination. Don’t just stop there. And if someone repeatedly tells me that he can’t move forward, then I advise him to turn back.

There’s a city of maya, it’s a beautiful city, enchanting, appealing, bewitching but it survives on your life-blood. It gives you a few good moments but at the cost of the essence of your life. It gives you pleasure at the cost of the essential. And then there is the city of the Beyond, that city when looked at from the city of maya is not very attractive. It’s a calm, serene place but it does not have too many flashy attractions. It is the city of bliss and the city of maya is the city of bling, the city of blitz. Most of us care for blitz than for bliss.

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Where is the real me? || Acharya Prashant, with Students (2013)

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Acharya Prashant: It has been told to us that there exists two centers. I suppose it has been very freshly told to you, very recently. He says, ‘How do I know that I am living out from the right center? How does a young man know whether he is not being made a fool of? That the ego is not taking him for a ride, how does a young man know that?’

You can not know the Truth, the reality, what you call as the right, unless you first know what is false and that must be the first step. You cannot directly jump on the Truth. Reason is simple, our lives, our minds are full of the false. You say, the ego, the false center, what this ego is about?


This is about acquiring an identity given by the external. Someone comes and tells you that you are brilliant. This is the statement made by an external agency, that you are brilliant. And what you do, you say, ‘I am brilliant’, this is what ego is:

Internalizing an external influence.

Do you see this?

So, something external has been taken-in by me, and I started believing that this is me. This is what false center is; and unfortunately our minds are full of imported beliefs. To be more accurate all beliefs are imported beliefs. Taken from outside, someone comes and tells you something and you take it in. Our minds are full of that only.

Our religion has been given to us by somebody else. Name, way of life, definitions of what life is, success is, livelihood is, work is, career is, love is, freedom is; all of this has come from outside. We have not understood them on our own. The entire script is coming from outside and we are just living that script. That’s what our life is. If life is like this, why should we ask what is real?

First step is to look at this life that we are leading.

Why ask for a real?

Which would be nothing but just an imagination for you, right now.

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How to prevent myself from emotional self-harm? || (Acharya Prashant, 2018)

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Questioner: An episode in my life haunts me. It’s me who keeps on revising that ugly memory when there is a similar situation? How do I prevent myself from such an emotional self harm?

Acharya Prashant: The mind is such a bottomless abyss. An abyss tired of its own bareness, vacancy. An abyss trying to fill itself in all possible ways. A scared loneliness groping, clutching at everything, even if those things are obviously useless, or even harmful.

The past is therefore clung to. If life is insubstantial, mind tries to find substance in the past.

The question, hence, is not so much about why the past keeps haunting the mind. Mind has to stick to something. The mind cannot live alone. If, among all the objects available for engagement, the past, or an event of the past, appears the most attractive, then the mind will obviously stick to that event, and keep revisiting it by way of memory.

Hence, can we, today, give the mind something very beautiful? Something so beautiful that it enamours the mind, and something so vast it fills up the abyss? If we can bring the mind to beauty and truth, the mind would be both enthralled and illuminated. Then it will find no need, no reason, to repeatedly rush to the past.

How to find beauty and vastness today? Maybe one can begin by going to those who devoted their lives to peace and clarity. There have been those who have sung all their life of beauty and Truth. Maybe, in their company, the mind will learn what to seek and where to seek.

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