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You deliberately confine yourself in environments that are suitable, conducive to your views about the world.

Man has this ability, a very unfortunate ability to come to a temporary stability in an unstable equilibrium.

Experience is the only way. One thing with conditioning is that, it cannot bear exposure to fact. All kinds of conditioning thrive only in environment suitable to them. And if they are expose to environments that their underlined assumptions do not allow, then conditioning collapses.

You deliberately confine yourself in environments that are suitable, conducive to your views about the world.

That is how people continue to remain conditioned for long periods of time. They will just not allow any dangerous experience to touch them. They will just not allow news of other world to reach them.

Come in touch with people, life, experiences that lies outside the rigmarole of your daily living. If you continue to live within your four walls, you will continue to be the prisoner of those four walls then your identity cannot change. Experiencing, touching, feeling, smelling, travelling – that is why they have a great importance. You come to see that, which violates your prejudices. You’re compelled to confront that, which does not match with your assumptions. When you are compelled to confront that which does not match your assumptions, what happens to your assumptions?

They have to go away.



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How to learn to trust people?

 

 

Slide2Question: I believe that I like the ability to trust people. I like I found myself trying to flirt with fake as I say. There are times when I find myself desiring or trying or making a very good effort to be in faith and then there will be time and suddenly I’ll be put off completely. But that was my past. But this is something that I feel now that I probably like the ability to trust people. I don’t know what to do about it? Whether I should trust people or pay attention to it or not? I don’t even know what to do with it.

AP: Man has this ability, a very unfortunate ability to come to a temporary stability in an unstable equilibrium. Because you come from an engineering background so I use this example. You can have a chemical which is unstable but is not coming in contact with something to react with. Now, it can conveniently remain isolated, secured, in its own high energy unstable position. Right? It can remain so for years, for decades, for a lifetime. Now, how does that chemical gain a more stable, more peaceful, a low energy equilibrium? How? Continue reading

You are unnecessarily sad

Question: Whenever you’re looking for spirituality, you tend to leave some things and you tend to walk towards some things. And in doing that, you are obviously, creating some disturbance in the ecosphere that you are leaving behind. So, how do you justify this?

Acharya Prashant: You see, what is it that you want – a superficial peace, or real welfare?

If I really am in love with myself and hence, in love with you, would I want you to live in a superficial peace or would I want your real welfare?

What you are calling as a disturbance in that which you leave behind, is just a superficial disturbance, yes? And that disturbance, is not of your creation. Unstable systems are prone to be disturbed. They have no equilibrium. What have you done? Why do you hold yourself responsible for all that?

And this question that you are asking is behind so much of human misery.

“I know what the right thing is, but if I do this, my wife will feel bad, so I am not doing this.”

That’s what this question amounts to, right?

“I know that I am not in the right job, but if I leave my job, then my project will suffer, or my boss will feel bad. So I am not leaving it.”

“I know what the right thing is, but if I do the right thing, then my society will not approve and will be disturbed, so I am not doing it.”

“I am in all sorts of filthy relationships, but if I drop those relationships, if I change the quality of those relationships, then the other will not be happy. So, I am not changing anything.”

Why don’t you see that if you are really in love, then it is not the other’s happiness that you want; it is the other’s welfare that you want? And these are two extremely different things.

Sometimes, Ah! Most of the times rather, what is really helpful to the other, would not make the other happy.Why use the word “other”?

Look at your own case – what is really helpful to you, does it make you happy? No, it rather makes you shiver.

L1: Yes, when you think it first.

AP: Yes, now don’t you want to endure that pain? Don’t you know that it is important to pass through that pain? Can you avoid that pain and still be free?

And if you can’t be free without passing through that pain, why do you want to insulate your loved ones from that pain, why?

Let them pass through this pain and when they will pass through this pain, if you love them, you too will pass through a pain. This pain will purify both of you.

Are you getting this?

In trying to avoid disturbance, we create hell for everybody including ourselves.

Don’t avoid disturbance. What you are calling as peace is not peace at all. If it is peace, then it is peace of the graveyard. It is not the peace of the meditating yogi.

L2: You said that, most often that which helps us actually brings us pain rather than happiness, but the help is needed because some pain or sadness is already there. So, that must help us. How is it bringing more pain and more sadness? Why is it going in the opposite direction?

AP: It is not bringing more pain. When you are sad, what do you do with your sadness?

Quickly, please tell me! When you are sad, what do you do with your sadness?

L3: You push it!

AP: You push it away, you suppress it; you hide it under the carpet, don’t you?

The words of the teacher don’t give you more sadness. They just expose your pre-existing sadness. You suppress your sadness and suppression makes it all the more powerful.

The work of the teacher is to show you that you are unnecessarily sad.

Both — that you are sad and that sadness is unnecessary;

that you are unnecessarily sad.

Firstly, he must show you that you are in fact sad and then, he must show you that you are unnecessarily sad. But if you have not been shown firstly, that you are so sad, how will he show you that you are dealing in un-necessities?

But it is a common complaint — People come grudging that the teacher makes them unhappy! It only shows how out of touch we are with ourselves.

The teacher didn’t make you unhappy. He just held a mirror in front of you and said, “Look, how unhappy you already are.”

“See, how unhappy you are, that you must keep smiling!”

Tum itna jo muskura rahe ho… (You are smiling so much – singing a song)

He just shows you your smiles and says, “See, you are weeping!”

Kya gam hai jisko chhupa rahe ho? (What worries are you trying to hide?)

Now, would you say that the teacher has made you sad? Yes? But we often shoot the messenger, don’t we?

L4: What is wrong with suppressing your sadness?

AP: Because, it doesn’t go away. It doesn’t go away just because you have suppressed it.

L4: But for you, it is no longer there.

AP: No, It is very much there. It is very much there. Otherwise, why would you have acted in ways that oppose sadness? If there is no fear of the enemy, why are you walking around with your gun?

L5: Having that gun is better than facing the enemies, sometimes at least.

AP: What about not having the enemy at all? What about showing you, that the enemy is unnecessary? You think that the gun gives you protection. No!

The gun only keeps proving again and again to you, that you indeed do have an enemy. The enemy is a fiction. Your answer is the gun!

The gun is not the solution.

Miserable and bored, you go out to party. You really think you are partying? Left to yourself, with everybody else gone from that venue, do you know how you would feel? You are just trying to hide behind noise. That is why you must have loud speakers and woofers there. That’s why all those thousands of watts of music are needed.

Suppressing something cannot make it go away.

~ Excerpts from a ‘Shabd-Yoga’ session. Edited for clarity.

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Further Reading:

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‘Advait in Everyday Life’ by Acharya Prashant

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