“If anyone comes to me and doesn’t hate his
brother, father, wife and children and
his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”
BIBLE (LUKE 14, VERSE 26-27)
Jesus said, “If anyone comes to me and doesn’t hate his brother, father, wife and children and his own life, he cannot be my disciple”. What does this mean? Because it seems something opposite to what I have been hearing all my life.
I’ll repeat the verse quoted.
Luke 14, Verse 26-27, Jesus is saying “If anyone comes to me and doesn’t hate his brother, father, wife and children and his own life, he cannot be my disciple”.
Turbulent and choppy, hmm? But we’ll sail through it. “If anyone comes to me and doesn’t hate his brother, mother, father, wife and children and his own life,” you must read the series of the names backward — my own life, my children, my wife, my father, my mother, my brother. So what comes first in the list of those that Jesus says deserve to be hated? One’s own life. Jesus says, look at your life and see the kind of relationships you have established with your children, with your father, brother, mother, wife. And unless you are totally dissatisfied, how can you be my disciple? If you feel alright with the way you are, with the way relationships exist in the world, then remain satisfied then you need no improvement, and I’m not available to entertain you. I do not treat those who are not convinced of their sickness.
We live in relationships. A man never exists and a silo. You are always with somebody.
Aloneness is an elusive mirage for mankind.
Real aloneness is a prerogative only of the Buddhas.
The others, they all live in mandatory relationship. I’m saying mandatory because they have brought themselves to a point where they cannot be alone.
We are always related.
We always find our identity in the other through the other.
As you’re sitting here, you are related to the cold. As you are sitting here, your identity is being defined even by whether you have taken a bath today or not. Have you seen how your clothes define your identity? Every single thing that you are in contact with, starts defining you.
We exist as someone with respect to something or somebody or this or that, that is not the best way of existing, but that’s the de-facto mode of our existence.
We cannot deny that.